What Happy Couples Know

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Be your ideal spouse. If someone asked you what you wanted from your partner, you'd quickly rattle off a long list of qualities. But a great relationship starts with you, the Leedses say. "It's my job to be the kind of partner I want," Lilo says. "I think, Instead of criticizing, what can I do differently? or What am I doing that is upsetting him?" Once you commit to improving you, you'll notice a difference in your relationship — and you'll be motivated to improve even more.

- Ok I shall not have Horror GF Syndrome reacting.

Think before you speak. "When I'm angry, I say, 'Don't talk to me. I'm busy counting to 100,'" Lilo says. "Counting prevents fights from escalating because by the time I'm done, I either forget why I am mad or I realize that what I'm angry about is unimportant."

- So Mr Lim ah, if I never reply your promptly means I am busy counting to 100 1,000 ah.

Ask for what you need instead of complaining about what is wrong. If something bothers you, it's better to get it off your chest rather than fume. "But there's a big difference between 'We never go out to dinner' and 'I'd like to go out for dinner,'" Lilo says. "Asking sets a positive tone, and is more likely to get results."

- Hmm, ok then.

Mr Lim I really LOVED the bangle. Like REALLY LOVE. So in love that I found myself thinking of birds and butterflies and such.

Positive enough?

Make your marriage a lifelong courtship. "Just because the honeymoon ends doesn't mean the romance has to stop," Lilo says. Gerry adds, "We are still holding hands, making love, and skiing down mountains together. We knew we'd be happy when we met more than five decades ago, but the reality is better than our dreams."

Well! Maybe I can skip this last part since its quite unapplicable.